Parents and other immediate family will be shown their assigned seats for the ceremony (first three rows). Groomsmen should take note of who's sitting where, so they can make sure everyone's in the right place on the wedding day.

Primping and Prep Time
Saturday, March 25, 2pm, in San Jose
The last chance to figure out hairstyles, makeup, and other details of dress! Elisa Jensen (brideswoman) has graciously offered to do Trystan and Thomas' hair, so we'll be giving it a trial-run at our apartment. Also, if anyone in the wedding party has questions or problems with their outfits, this is the final time to get that worked out.

Rehearsal Dinner
Saturday, March 25, 6pm, at Taj Palace Restaurant in south San Jose
The wedding party, your significant others, immediate family, and out-of-town guests will be invited to this dinner hosted by Mary Lord (Thomas' mom) with help from Robert and Deb Dowrie (Thomas' dad and step-mom). It will be a full Indian buffet dinner. A printer-friendly map is here. Also, we'll bring the guestbook and pens so people can write in advance.

Getting Ready
8am
Trystan and Thomas start getting dressed at home. All wedding party members should get dressed at their home/hotel or wherever they are staying on Saturday night.

Hair and Makeup
9am
Elisa arrives at Trystan and Thomas' place to help with their hair. Everyone else should finish their toilette at home (or wherever ;-).

Formal Wedding Photos
10am
All members of the wedding party must be completely dressed and ready at the Capital Club steps! We'll get all the formal posed pictures out of the way before guests arrive.

Photographer Erica Conners will be taking photos for our wedding.

Throughout the day, Irina, Elisa, and Kelly should make sure Trystan's lipstick is still there. Likewise, Mike, Chris, and Scott should make sure Thomas' thistle earrings are on straight.

Flowers and Rings
11am
Florist Marilyn Kromrey distributes personal flowers to wedding party for more pictures.

Parents and grandparents are requested to arrive at this time to take part in the formal pictures.

At some point during this time, Irina receives Thomas' ring from Trystan to hold during the ceremony, and Mike receives Trystan's ring from Thomas to hold during the ceremony.

Serious Setup
12pm
During this time, lots of vendors will be running around setting things up. Florist Marilyn Kromrey will be setting up decorations in the Gold/Silver/Bronze Rooms. The Prolific Oven delivers and sets up the wedding cake in Corinthian Room. DJ Raffi Navarlin arrives to setup in Corinthian Room. Audio engineer Rich Thomas arrives to setup in Gold/Silver/Bronze Rooms. The San Jose String Quartet arrives to setup in Gold/Silver/Bronze Rooms.

The wedding party will still be taking pictures until 12:30pm. At that time, Thomas and Trystan will go into hiding upstairs.

The Guests Arrive
12:30pm
Music starts playing in the Gold/Silver/Bronze Rooms. The wedding ceremony starts at 1pm sharp, so guests should arrive between 12:30pm and 1pm.

The wedding party should be stationed in the foyer. The groomsmen will show people to their seats. The brideswomen will greet guests and hand out programs.

The Wedding in the Gold/Silver/Bronze Rooms
1pm

**Processional**

• Music: Waltz of the Courtiers by Thomas Dowrie, played by string quartet.
  
• Grandparents walk down aisle and take seats.
  
• Parents walk down aisle, light unity candle, and take seats.
  
• Elisa and Chris walk down aisle. Elisa stands at the far left, Chris stands at the far right.
  
• Kelly and Scott walk down aisle. Kelly stands at the middle left, Scott stands at the middle right.
  
• Irina and Mike walk down aisle. Irina stands at the front left, Mike stands at the front right.
  
• James walks down aisle. Stands in the front center.

• Parents and grandparents stand, signaling all guests stand.
  
• Music changes to: Fanfare for a Beloved Man by Thomas Dowrie, played by CD.

• Thomas walks down aisle. Stands at the front center left.
  
• Trystan walks down aisle. Stands at the front center right.

• Trystan hands her bouquet to Kelly.
  
• Elisa arranges Trystan's train.
  
• Thomas and Trystan face each other, with profile view towards guests

  **Ceremony**
  

• James asks everyone to be seated.
  
• Opening remarks.

• Affirmation of support from family and friends.
  
• James will ask of family and all guests: "Do you support their marriage and accept the new partner into your life as family and a friend of your own?"
  
• Everyone please respond loudly and clearly: "We do."

• Affirmation of the couple.
  
• Reflections on marriage from the writings of Rainer Maria Rilke.
  
• Chinese wine ceremony.

• "A Lesson in Love" read by Janet Canning. Janet stands at center, in James' place. Janet brings her own copy of poem.

• Personal statements from Trystan and Thomas. James holds text so that Trystan and Thomas can read from it.
  
• Marriage vows.
  
• Exchange of rings.

• "Remembering Love" read by Mary Lord. Mary stands at center, in James' place. Mary brings her own copy of poem.

• Celtic hand-fasting ceremony.
  
• Lighting of the family unity candle.

• Oh the Places You'll Go by Dr. Suess read by Scott Yourmans. Scott stands at center, in James' place. Scott brings his own copy of text, folded inside his coat pocket.

• Proclamation of marriage.
  
• Kiss.
  
• Presentation of the couple.

• Trystan and Thomas turn to face guests.
  
• Elisa arranges Trystan's train.
  
• Kelly hands bouquet back to Trystan.

  **Recessional**
  

• Music: Eine Kleine Nachtmusik played by string quartet.
  
• Parents and grandparents stand, signaling all guests stand.
  
• Trystan and Thomas walk back down aisle and go upstairs.
  
• James walks down aisle and goes into Columns Lounge.
  
• Irina and Mike walk down aisle and go into Columns Lounge.
  
• Scott and Kelly walk down aisle and go into Columns Lounge.
  
• Elisa and Chris walk down aisle and go into Columns Lounge.
  
• Parents walk down aisle and go into Columns Lounge.
  
• Grandparents walk down aisle and go into Columns Lounge.
  
• Guests walk down aisle and go into Columns Lounge.

Scott and Kelly encourage all guests to write something in the scrapbook. The wedding party should make sure guests know to get their table seating assignments.

Luncheon in the Corinthian Room
2:30pm
Capital Club staff invites everyone into Corinthian Room to be seated. Guests are assigned to a table for lunch, but the exact seat is up to them. Once guests are seated, the staff will be release tables one at a time to go to the lavish buffet. The DJ will be playing mellow instrumental music in the background.

After everyone has gone through buffet line and is seated again, the DJ will announce toasts and tell the guests to continue eating during toasts. Toasts can be by the best man, best woman, parents, and/or whoever else wants to. Trystan and Thomas will give their own thanks and special mentions too.

Dancing in the Corinthian Room
3:30pm
After Trystan and Thomas' first dance, the DJ will open the dancefloor to all! The DJ will sprinkle the dance music with dedications to our parents, our cat, etc. We really want the wedding party to dance and encourages other guests to dance throughout the reception.

The wedding party should also encourage other guests to use the disposable cameras provided at their tables. Remind people that the cameras are only good for close-up shots.

Cake Cutting in the Corinthian Room
4:30pm
The DJ will announce the cake cutting. This is another opportunity for people to make toasts, if you so desire. Then Trystan and Thomas will cut the cake and feed each other a bite. Cake will be served to all guests.

Dance music will be resumed by the DJ for the rest of the event.

End o' the Party
6:30pm
The DJ will announce the last dance. Afterwards, the wedding party should encourage guests to take home candles from the centerpieces. Finally, Trystan and Thomas leave for home to change clothes and get their luggage.

Tear Down
7pm
Trystan's mother, Florence Bass, will give vendors their payment, take home all gifts and cards received, and take bride's bouquet.

Thomas' mother, Mary Lord, will take home the cake toppers, toasting flutes, guestbook, plume pen, silver pens, ceremony items (candles, cords, wine bottle from James), and aisle chair bows.

Thomas' dad and step-mom, Robert and Deb Dowrie, will help take bows off ceremony aisle chairs and take home the disposable cameras and leftover favours, programs, and centerpiece items (candles, CDs, table signs).

Best man, Michael Snyder will get back CDs loaned to DJ and the CD of ceremony music, and tear down and take home our stereo and speakers.

Leave for the Airport
8pm
A limo picks us up from our home to whisk us away to SFO. There we'll catch a 10pm flight to Miami, and transfer to Montego Bay, Jamaica. Then we're off to our honeymoon at Sandals Negril!!!